I recently read two opposing views. One was a statement which I thought, was not thoroughly thought out before blurting. One read that: "Ending up alone is the worst thing that could happen to you." This reminded me of a cheap sales pitch for a costly love match site which charges over a Thousand dollars to meet the love of your life. The radio host said in a forewarning manner: “Being alone looks so bad…”
I rolled my eyes, thinking what a blatant insult to the intelligence of the audience.
As to the former statement, I felt compelled to inquire from this person, if he was a used car salesman. Or if his statement would hold true in view of a major catastrophe, say losing eyesight due to an illness, or legs in a freak accident, or….and so on.
Times have changed. More women than ever are choosing to live alone, even become single mothers when their biological clock ticks, regardless of if in a committed relationship, while others enjoy loving committed relationships, not necessarily legalized.
I am not saying men are becoming obsolete, however, the necessity of our ancestors to marry and be dependent on a man is. Even in a loving relationship, women may still choose to retain their independence and live separately. An article on MSN, last week narrated a story of a couple married 14 years, who have two kids and live separately. Each has their own apartment, which they don’t want to give up, as well as having different temperaments.
Perhaps that is a bit extreme to some, yet there is certain logic to this method. Too much familiarity may breed contempt, as I witnessed this evening at the supermarket. The wife looked tired and unhappy, while the husband put her down in front of other people by using condescending and sarcastic tone, as their kid was witness to this.
As to the former statement, I felt compelled to inquire from this person, if he was a used car salesman. Or if his statement would hold true in view of a major catastrophe, say losing eyesight due to an illness, or legs in a freak accident, or….and so on.
Times have changed. More women than ever are choosing to live alone, even become single mothers when their biological clock ticks, regardless of if in a committed relationship, while others enjoy loving committed relationships, not necessarily legalized.
I am not saying men are becoming obsolete, however, the necessity of our ancestors to marry and be dependent on a man is. Even in a loving relationship, women may still choose to retain their independence and live separately. An article on MSN, last week narrated a story of a couple married 14 years, who have two kids and live separately. Each has their own apartment, which they don’t want to give up, as well as having different temperaments.
Perhaps that is a bit extreme to some, yet there is certain logic to this method. Too much familiarity may breed contempt, as I witnessed this evening at the supermarket. The wife looked tired and unhappy, while the husband put her down in front of other people by using condescending and sarcastic tone, as their kid was witness to this.
Living together, but with each their own space, would give each individual a personal sanctuary to breath, grow, cultivate his or her own aspirations in. This would also serve to preserve mutual respect, mystery and romance, and hopefully avoid mental anguish to their offspring, if any.
If you think this idea is ludicrous, and there is no need to calibrate the current formula, simply take into account the exorbitant divorce rate, which those for the most part, end not very amicably.
I think at this point of my life, I need my own bedroom and bathroom. I would visit, yes…but I would definitely need my own space – off limits to others.
I think at this point of my life, I need my own bedroom and bathroom. I would visit, yes…but I would definitely need my own space – off limits to others.
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“If spouses did not live together, good marriages would be more frequent.”
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
